i want to share with you something my cell group leader shared with me on..saturday. its about dealing with hurt/bitterness. i think if you can do all these.. you'll lead a happy life.
two 'rules' : Great successes are often followed by great failures.
deal with them.
:Great services in life are often followed by great forgetfulness.
you can do a hundred good deeds to a person. then you do something bad. believe me, the person will probably only remember the bad. that's how people are.
When we are hurt/taken for granted, here are 4 steps we can do.
1) Don't curse it.
don't get mad and start blaming the whole world. because when you hide hatred in your heart, then YOU will be in the wrong, even though you were not in anyway wrong at the beginning.
2) Don't rehearse it.
Get over it! Leave the past behind! Stop replaying the scene over and over in your mind--you'll just get more and more pissed. Rehearsing all your hurt is just like driving and looking backwards. you WILL crash. Look to the future.
3) Don't nurse it.
Don't place a seed of hatred in your heart and grow it. For if you do, you'll just be a petty and bitter person. Throw out the seed. Why do you let bad things grow in your heart?
4) Disperse it.
Throw it away. Will hatred bring you wealth or happiness?NO. In fact, it'll bring sadness and misery into your life.
And the last 'rule'. Its a golden rule... : Great shortages in life are often followed by fullness. When you seem to be stuck in a desert, an oasis is just around the corner! Do not despair.HOLD ON.
and now, my main reason for this post: Something i've been dying to write about, but i have kept pushing it to the back of my mind. but today i decided that its the day to blog about it.
Please: If you know what i'm talking about, then good for you. If you don't, then please respect my privacy. after today i really don't want to think about it anymore. That is, unless, it resurfaces.
Right. Today i have made up my mind. When you keep sacrficing but you don't benefit, you keep trying. I'm a patient person. But even patience has a limit. And i've reached it. I'm throwing in the towel. I don't see any point in trying to salvage the situation. Its a waste of time and effort.
When people hurt you, you are not at fault. But if you keep that hurt inside your heart and let it grow into bitterness, then you have sinned. against God. I don't want my whole life to be a sin. So i'm letting it go. The whole issue. A mountain made out of a molehill. I want to lead life with a clear conscience. And the last time i checked, i DO have a clear conscience. So there's no better time to let go than now. I'm not going to let your thoughtless actions affect me anymore. Never again. I have just installed Norton Antivirus in my heart right beside your name. Surprise surprise! The firewall is switched on to block all incoming unidentified objects. No more trojan horses to enter my system. I'm not going to take anymore risks. For now, strangers/acquaintances sounds good. But if you want to treat me like your enemy, then i have nothing to say. I won't be hurt, I won' be angry. I won't care. Time heals all wounds, but it leaves a scar. True? So from now on, you can do whatever you want to me. I won't retaliate back, I won't fight back. I hope that makes you happy. Really. Whatever you do to me now will only be a reflection of who you really are, your true self. If you are nasty, then others will know that you're nasty. Life's fair. If you ever do get over this, though i highly doubt so, then good for you. If you never do... well you're just showing others that you are petty. Love and patience has a limit. And i think i've just snapped. So peace out, sweetheart. I wish you all the best in life.
p.s: I really love my new baby. Its red, its black, its the CHOCOLATE PHONE! lol. p.p.s: If you know me well, and you will simply die if you don't know what i was blogging about, call me. I can spare 5 mins. =)
