Thursday, April 05, 2007
what's everyone up to?
as i'm writing this i'm getting
a sense of deja vu.
could it be that my posts are all
starting to sound the same?
i had lunch with my mum and my boss
at raffles city.
or rather, my mum's friend,
since i'm no longer working.
took my final pay check and the feeling
was awesome.
around $650 for two weeks,
only weekdays.
plus i only worked a shift on one of those days..
went to LV with them after a great lunch.
my mum has more or less chosen the bag she wants..
and i have chosen the purse i want.
;)
=(
but i can't have it.
can afford it, cos of all my pay,
but its really not worth it.
$600 for a wallet.-__-
haven't had much of an intellectual post for some time.
being away from school does that to you.
but anyway,
as inexperienced as i am in the arena of love,
i do acknowledge something--
that it is so very important not to
take love as a habit.
the moment your love for a person
becomes habitual, that's when your relationship
will slowly hit ground zero.
perhaps another way to phrase habitual love is:
taking for granted.
how dangerous that is!
when we take a person for granted,
we fail to appreciate whatever they are doing for us,
till a tragedy of some sort strikes.
that applies to our loved ones too.
i'm sure realising that your mum meant well
at her deathbed is an all too familiar scene
in serial dramas.
if love had a progress chart,
it would most probably take the shape
of a mountain for most.
at first, the love has to be cultivated.
then it'll reach its peak.
but before it goes downhill,
thats when you have to make a conscious
effort to make sure it doesn't.
i think the keyword here is: surprise.
as sweet as getting together for dinner
every once in a while and catching a movie
might be,
after some time it becomes a routine.
and that calls for change.
do you realise why unwed couples
are always so lovey dovey as compared
to long-term married one?
no no no, its not about getting over the thrill of love.
that should never happen.
its because of one word: insecurity.
a married man would take his wife for granted
much more easily.
why? cos technically, she's his.
its written in black and white,
and the vows have been said.
its secure.
whereas the courtship is still on for
unwed couples, even if you're 100%
sure that she'll be yours.
cos technically,
she's still free to leave you at her whim
and fancy.
she isn't bound to you by marriage.
that means you have to keep the game going.
someone once told me that couples
not planning to have children should stay
unwed as marriage always seems to
release a floodgate of problems.
yes,it is sweet to "get over
those hurdles together".
but why even make yourself stumble
in the first place?
but many people still prefer to marry.
for its symbolic reasons aside,
when you really love someone,
you get "kiasu".
;)
isn't kiasu-ism the reason for marriage?
i mean, apart from giving your children,
if any,a "stable" enviroment and "security",
marriage is a vow that:
you are his,
only his,
and he is yours,
only yours.
get it?
one way to put it is:
a vow to bind each other together through it all.
doesn't that sound beautiful?
another way is:
a kiasu move to ensure that you'll have all of him/her
forever and ever more.
=)
food for thought.
(eh, not trying to discourage marriage here!!
don't get me wrong!i'm not against it myself.
its just something to mull over,
like the ugly side of something beautiful)
xoxo,
clara.
10:31 PM
